There are no rules to define what is good sex and what is not. It varies from person to person.
Discuss with your partner how often, how long, where and how you have sex. Together you can find a sex life that you both enjoy. If necessary, you can also talk to a health professional.
Also talk about your limits. You do not have to do or like everything.
The frequency of sex changes in the course of a relationship. At some times, couples have sex more often than at others. This is normal.
Everybody’s desire for sex is different. Your sexual desire can also differ from one day to another depending on your mood, the atmosphere and your arousal.
More information or help needed?
You can talk to a family doctor about almost every intimate issue. If necessary the family doctor can refer you to a specialised health professional. Find a family doctor in your neighbourhood:
Community health centre (wijkgezondheidscentrum)
You can visit a family doctor in a community health centre. Other care professionals such as nurses and social workers also work at community health centres. Care is provided free of charge. Find a community health centre in your neighbourhood:
Therapy for sexual problems. A sexologist looks for a solution through conversations with one or both partners. Find a sexologist in your neighbourhood: