Masturbation means giving yourself sexual pleasure by stimulating your own body, especially the vagina, clitoris, penis, nipples or anus, with your hands.

You can also masturbate using objects, like a dildo or a vibrator (sex toys). Be careful not to harm yourself.

Feel free to experiment and figure out what you like.

Masturbation is not harmful. Many men and women masturbate. It is also OK not to masturbate.
You can also masturbate when you are in a relationship.

How to masturbate

You can masturbate in different ways. For example:

Men:

  • caressing your nipples, penis, scrotum and buttocks;
  • holding the penis and moving your hand back and forth;
  • varying the movements in speed, rhythm and intensity.

If you are circumcised, it is best to use a lubricant such as Vaseline or a special lubricant that does not contain oil (water-based). Never use Vaseline in combination with a condom. It could harm the condom.

A man masturbating.
A man masturbating.
Detail of the hand of a man holding his penis while he masturbates.
Detail of the hand of a man holding his penis while he masturbates.
Detail of the hand of a man applying lubricant on his circumcised penis.
Detail of the hand of a man applying lubricant on his circumcised penis.

Women:

  • caressing the vagina, clitoris, labia, nipples, breasts, buttocks;
  • putting your fingers in your vagina and moving them around;
  • varying the movements in speed, rhythm and intensity.
A woman masturbating.
A woman masturbating.
Detail of a woman masturbating example 1: putting your fingers in your vagina and moving them around
Detail of a woman masturbating example 1: putting your fingers in your vagina and moving them around
Detail of a woman masturbating example 2: caressing your vagina, clitoris and labia
Detail of a woman masturbating example 2: caressing your vagina, clitoris and labia

Masturbating each other

Partners can also masturbate each other.

A woman masturbating a man.
A woman masturbating a man.
A man masturbating a woman.
A man masturbating a woman.

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