Falling in love with someone else
Anyone can fall in love with someone who is not his or her partner.
You can fall in love with this person for several reasons. For example:
- You feel physical attraction;
- You like certain characteristics of this person;
- You have a problem in an existing relationship;
- You miss the excitement of being in love.
These feelings can disappear, but not immediately. It is up to you to decide what you want to do.
If you continue your relationship, decide if you want to tell your partner or not. Telling your partner can be a strong sign that you are choosing your relationship and your partner rather than the other person. It can also hurt your partner’s feelings, lead to distrust or make the relationship more complicated. If it is too difficult to talk with your partner, you can talk about the situation with someone you trust.
More information or help needed?
You can talk to a family doctor about almost every intimate issue. If necessary the family doctor can refer you to a specialised health professional. Find a family doctor in your neighbourhood:
Community health centre (wijkgezondheidscentrum)
You can visit a family doctor in a community health centre. Other care professionals such as nurses and social workers also work at community health centres. Care is provided free of charge. Find a community health centre in your neighbourhood:
Therapy for sexual problems. A sexologist looks for a solution through conversations with one or both partners. Find a sexologist in your neighbourhood: