Sexual pleasure usually begins when you feel sexual desire. Very often it also involves emotions, for example: sharing intimacy or feeling happy while caressing each other.

Sexual arousal

If your body is stimulated, you can get aroused. Your body can go through several phases of arousal. If you are very aroused, you can have an orgasm. To get aroused, people like to, for example:

on various parts of the body.

The erogenous zones for many people are the:

Your body can go through several phases of arousal: 1. sexual desire, 2. sexual arousal, 3. If you are very aroused, you can have an orgasm. 4. Calming down.
Man’s front with indication of the erogenous zones
Man’s front with indication of the erogenous zones
Man’s back with indication of the erogenous zones
Man’s back with indication of the erogenous zones
Woman’s front with indication of the erogenous zones
Woman’s front with indication of the erogenous zones
Woman’s back with indication of the erogenous zones
Woman’s back with indication of the erogenous zones

Different for everyone, each time

Sex can be different every time and for every couple. Talk with your partner about what you both like and how you like it (soft or hard, quick or slow, with your fingers, lips or tongue. etc.).

People can have sexual intercourse but it is not essential to having sexual pleasure. You can also just enjoy being intimate with each other: cuddle, caress, talk, enjoy each other’s company.

If you are very aroused, you can have an orgasm. Sometimes you will not have an orgasm. This is not a problem if you and your partner are not unhappy about it.

Couple talking in bed.

Protection against STIs

You can have sexual pleasure when using a condom during sexual intercourse. Use a condom to protect against STIs.

If you have no desire to have children at the moment, use a condom or another method of contraception.

Condom

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Family doctor
You can talk to a family doctor about almost every intimate issue. If necessary the family doctor can refer you to a specialised health professional. Find a family doctor in your neighbourhood:
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